An Air Of Confidence

Being that I am in sales, observing people is part of my job. Observing women is the nice part. But what I have noticed is a change in the older women. Now older is purely subjective, but lets say from 45-65 years of age.
By the way, it is getting harder to tell how old anymore. It is all guesses anyway.

Not that long ago, I would see a woman come in, too much make-up, not dressed in any fashion at all, kind of a lost look on their face, a sense of desperation in their body language. Some had had lost their husband, through death or divorce,  and were unprepared to solider on with a life on their own. They had let themselves go physically a long time ago. They didn't know much about anything around the house,( which in my store, that is what people come in for, to fix or replace), acting like lost souls.

By the way, this is not to say men don't go through this too ( except for the make up! ), but men can mask the lonely part a bit better I think.

Being I work in Florida, these observances may be a bit clouded because of the international flavor of people that stop by to shop.

The women I see now are better dressed and their hair done more age appropriate style. The blue hair look seems to be going away. There is more attention to detail in how they look. And it is very nice, and very noticeable.

A confident woman is very sexy. So is a genuineness in how you present your self. Inquiring, inquisitive. thoughtful, a smile, is also nice to have.  It is helpful to me because part of my job is to provide correct answers for the questions you have.

Women are more fit nowadays. Not all of course, but I see a trend that way. Guys have a lot of catching up to do. Women seem less world weary then men I think. I know life affects all, but on that, women seem to hide it better.

As a guy getting older, it is nice to see the ladies looking good. Truly all selfish reasons on my part.

A confident woman is very sexy!

I think it is morning coffee time

ray

Women, Ball Caps and Glasses And Stinky

What I think

Women have the advantage when it comes to wearing different things. Unlike in the animal kingdom where the male has all the decorative plumage, the women have the advantage.

Glasses

Unlike in grade school and high school, where when I was growing up, they were functional only. Now they have style and can be considered a fashion accessory. If it is done right, it can draw attention to the woman. Believe it or not, guys do look at the face first. Older women often use it as a signal of sorts, beckoning a man to come closer. A guy will be thinking, "If I can get those glasses off..." lol

Knit Caps and Winter Time

I don't know why, but women look cuter with the knit cap on when it is cold out. Especially when it has been snowing out. It brings out the protective feel in a guy, to shield her from the cold. Works for me!

Ball Caps

Be ready if you tell a woman she looks sexy in a ball cap. She won't believe you.  She will tell you she had a bad hair day or her hair is dirty, or something. She will begrudgingly thank you and still not believe you. Ladies trust me on this, the look works.

Too Stinky

We don't care if a good looking woman is stinky or smelly or sweaty from working out or outside in the yard. You smell good to us and we want more! And just maybe, we can be there next time to help with the sweaty part.. guys brains alway working overtime!

That is it for now, me revealing more of me and my way of thinking.
Scary huh? I hope not.

later

ray

A Woman's Intuition or Man's Gut Feelings?

Which is better?

Both involve reading between the lines of hidden or non expressed meanings or feelings. A lot of it seems to be based on previous life experiences. Instinctive reactions can take over.

Both involve emotion. But the emotions involved sometimes cloud the judgement being given. Women look at a given situation differently then men, at times anyway. The nurturer-gather versus the hunter mentality.

It is a physical plus mental awareness that happens to a person. A sensory overload of sorts.

Soon to follow is the AHA moment or an epiphany of sorts, a dawning of a realization.

Sometimes though it is called jumping to conclusions. Not all the facts are in yet.  Perception vs. Reality.

After thinking about it, I don't know who has the edge.

What do you think?

ray

Cellulite In Men?

90% of women get cellulite because of their estrogen levels and how the fat lies under the skin. Men's fat is more  so interlaced with the muscles. So it doesn't happen as often.

By the way, this information was found online. However a backward glance into a mirror one morning confirmed that it possible for guys to get some too! WTF! So I got that going for me. However, it is hardly noticeable because I don't wear that high cut swim suit like the ladies.

It is not like I have women clamoring to get a look at my behind as I walk away, sadly I might say.

Honestly, for the most part we don't care. If one understands it is part of nature it shouldn't matter.

Trust me, you will still get an admiring glance no matter what. In fact I am looking right about now!

and now, showing off my dimples, I realize it is

Time for another pot of coffee!

ray

I Will Tell All On What Attracts A Guy To A Woman!

And after years of research the answer is? We don't know. Sigh... Guys over the years will develop their own instant analysis on what attracts them to a woman, but it is something that will change over time.

Yes, we do compare.  A woman walks in the room, we like. She comes in later with a friend, do we still like?
She comes in with two friends, oh my, now it gets complicated.  But three guys looking at three women will all have different likes and preferences.

Many woman think it is all boob lust. Bigger is better. Not necessarily. Over time preferences change anyway. It can't be all physical because looks will change.

Is it her smile?
Is it her laugh?
Is it her eyes?
Is she intelligent? Yes that counts.
Is she confident?
Is she shy?
Does she bring out the manly protective instinct to care for her? Trust me, that happens.

And does she, and this is big, care for him? This is the big card in the deck.
And now for the big secret.

This all happens in seconds, maybe minutes, sometimes over a few hours.  None of this "One day he realized how wonderful and beautiful she was!" paperback romance stuff.

And there maybe things to sway him otherwise, things he knows or learns, rarely will he change his mind.

And there you have it. I have revealed all. I will of course be drummed out of the man club.
oh well.

coffee time

ray

What women mean?

Amendment
This is from an email I received. Tongue in cheek humor, you be the judge!


NINE WORDS WOMEN USE

(1) Fine : This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2) Five Minutes : If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3) Nothing : This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

(4) Go Ahead : This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5) Loud Sigh : This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6) That's Okay : This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) Thanks : A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . That will bring on a 'whatever').

(8) Whatever : Is a woman's way of saying GO TO HELL

(9) Don't worry about it, I got it : Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself.. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.