Ladies-Men Have Body Issues Too!

Women are not he only ones with society notions of how one should look to others. If you notice the ads for mens magazines covers, workout shows, movie stars, athletes, many if not all, show wonderful physiques. rippling abs, almost no body fat to speak of and anything else to make one feel insecure.

Yes we share the same feelings ladies. We come across as being too short, too tall, too fat, too skinny, bad hair, no hair, too young, too old, not enough sculptured muscles, and so on.

But woman will say we don't care about all that. We do. We just don't talk about it. We look, we compare, who has the bigger belly, who is in better shape.

Sometimes we kid about it, but we all have a wish list of our own. Men almost always wear a shirt to hide their flaws and yes, are uncomfortable at the beach around the muscle types.
A guy is always up against someone bigger, faster, and stronger. Sometimes it matters, sometimes not.

It has always been that way since early man. Women are attracted to certain types just like men are. They will talk amongst themselves how wonderful this or that guy must be.
Some realize there has to be more then physical appearance and then the rest of us has a chance.

To become that guy takes a tremendous amount of work and maybe a narcissistic personality to achieve the look.

Most guys would be happy being reasonably fit. Most do not go to the extremes of anorexia or bulimia to get the look they want, like some women do.

But for bigger muscles or a better shape, steroids has been rampant for years with many athletes, an addiction of sorts. One that over time will kill.

Some will say that it doesn't matter, I am happy with the way he is. But if you woke up next to him to discover somehow the big belly is gone, the man boobs went away, he has nicer hair, I don't think you would mind.

Yes, we have body issues but we don't talk about it.
Oops, until now that is.

coffee time

ray

A Happy Day at Work?

Sometimes it happens. I started work yesterday at 1:00 p.m. and with the first customer I knew it was to be a great day. Not a super sales day but the interaction with customers was fantastic!

Everyone had a sense of humor. The ladies were beautiful, the men were laughing. I was at my most charming self, joking, kidding and having a fun time. When it happens, I get kind of a high, which feeds on its self.

It is an interaction those working in a cubicle or desk will never have happen to them. I guess I was like a stand-up comedian with an audience loving the act, feeling the rush of excitement and the pleasure of the performance.

It is called being in the zone. When everything works. You know it won't last, but you enjoy it while you can. When it does happen,  your job is not work, trust me on that.

I am actually handsome and charming everyday, but alas, it is not always noticeable.

Today is another day! I can't wait to go to work. Please someone stop me........

Pen in hand

I thought I would give it a try.

 I wondered how to do color, 

something I don't know how to do yet.

so I decided to add a bit of color,

the shirt cuff and the pen.

and a bit of the brown ( box )? also.

coffee time

ray

Man vs. Machine

Ok, if a bike can be called a machine it certainly qualifies. It belonged to oen of my daughters and sat unused for many years. It is old, showing some rust, paint chipping, a 12 speed I think. 

If I told you how many years it has been since I rode a bike we would share a big laugh. If you have been reading my posts, you would know I have been fighting knee problems. So I decided to give it a go.

The old saying you don't forget how to ride is true. The first thirty feet was very shaky but soon I was back in the groove. The tires are meant for trail riding, knobby instead of smooth so it is not a friendly ride but it stills works.

I started with one mile to see how my knee would react, so far so good. I am up to six miles a day now. I must admit it is not fun yet. My butt still hurts as it gets used to the seat, I know it will get better over time.

When I am doing 10 to 15 miles I may consider a better bike, but I will wait for awhile. Just to be sure.
I don't want it to stand in the corner of the garage begging to be used.

A bit of a boring post I guess but it will do.

coffee time
ray

Blogging Change

I am guilty of trying to do too much at one time.
Yes, I can multi-task with the best of them.
You know multi-tasking, the art of doing many things badly at the same time.

I am going to post 3 days a week.
I am going to try to do Monday, Wednesday and Friday only.
It is not set in stone, but we are mixing concrete as I write this post.

I try to be helpful to others all the time, it has mentally tired me out.  Sometimes the help was not warranted. Ouch.
My intentions however were honorable, as always.

Two of my posts will be deleted, I did not like the way they came across. Maybe I will delete more, I am not sure.  One is curiosity and the other trust.

I am not going away, just sitting in the corner chair with my feet up, having a cold one or coffee as the case may be, dictated by the time or day of the week. My  work schedule changes every week, but I think this will work.

Wish me well.

thanks

ray

p.s.
I have deleted 6 posts into never never land!

Another piece to the puzzle.. .Does it sound familiar?

As Scorpios tend to withdraw from the centre of activity, they can sometimes seem quite secretive, and tend to be quite complex. 
They possess profound and powerful natures, with immense tenacity and will-power, yet they are also deeply sensitive and easily moved by their emotions. 
The waters run deep for Scorpios in any situation.

Motto: I desire

Element: Water (negative, feminine)

Sign: Fixed (concentration, determination, individuality)

Symbol: Scorpion

Ruling Planet: Pluto

Colour: black, red

Gemstone: Citrine

As Scorpios tend to withdraw from the centre of activity, they can sometimes seem quite secretive, and tend to be quite complex. They possess profound and powerful natures, with immense tenacity and will-power, yet they are also deeply sensitive and easily moved by their emotions. The waters run deep for Scorpios in any situation.

A good and loyal friend, a Scorpio will never forget a kindness but they also find it next to impossible to forgive an injury. Ambitious and blunt, straight to the point, a Scorpio will zero in on the essential questions, gleaning the secrets that lie within, however Scorpios themselves are usually intensely private souls and not easy to get to know.As a water sign, Scorpio is primarily concerned with feelings. As a fixed sign, their feelings will be intense and powerful. The symbol of the scorpion depicts the intense and passionate nature of the Scorpio, which few ever truly understand. A scorpion has been known to sting itself to death, rather than be taken captive.

So how do you show a Scorpio how much you love them? As they are very adept at uncovering secrets, mystery books and movies would most likely make an appropriate gift for a Scorpio, along with sensually romantic gifts which would appeal to their passionate natures.

Sad Face--Happy Face

For a while I have been the face on the left.

 Emotions have ruled this Scorpio man.  

But the wrong emotions were in charge,

 eating away at me. 

The other face is emerging 

once again,

calming the seas,

a stillness in the air.

They will come back

for that I am sure, 

I will be on the lookout,

trying not

to sting myself.

Lose myself in the arts

build a better me, 

be all I can be

not a motto

but a lifestyle.

hang on, 

it's going to be

a bumpy ride,

tickets are free

enjoy your stay.

I will!

The Game We Love The Most Is Killing The Ones Who Play The Game

The brutal game many have played since childhood continues to ruin the lives of the ones that have played it at the professional level.

The depilating injuries to limbs and knees and shoulders has been well documented, leaving crippled players in its wake, unable to walk unassisted , drugged junkies unable to handle the daily tasks of life, castoffs of a cruel and vicious sport that attracts so many viewers that for many years now surpassed baseball as the American pastime.

The early days of football almost came to an end when some players died playing the game and changes were made to increase the safety for the players and equipment changes have made the sport more reckless and crowd pleasing for the viewing audience.

All with a price.

One attracts attention at all levels by having the ability to give out and withstand vicious hits. Those resonate the most with fans, plays of the week and end up on a you-tube highlight reel. The legacy of the game, crippled players left in the wake of it all. Huge grown men

Players of today are bigger, faster and stronger then years ago, but not tougher. Many gains in size and strength have come with steroids, which at the time, no one knew what the long term consequences would be, now we know.

Worst of all are the injuries that don't show, that can't be wrapped in a cast or bandages, no crutch for support.

Brain damage. many players are donating their brains after death to find out what is going on. Many have been found to have severe brain  damage.

Players are at risk at an early age, in childhood, when the risks are very high and not noticeable.

One note. To the rest of the world, players wearing the equipment that they do makes them not as tough as say Australian Rules football.

NFL players running at full speed, hitting a quarterback standing still, can generated the explosive force of being hit by a car at 35 miles an hour.  Anyone willing to try that , please get back to me with your results.

One thing though, do it 30 times. That is the average contact players go through in a game.

Like many sports, it is a test of machismo.  Man vs, Man.  But there are no winners.

You learn to play though the pain. But when you get older the pain never stops.

Back to the brain damage. Memory loss, blurred vision, it affects family life, jobs, constant headaches. The vibrant lifestyle one had when playing is gone.

yea, but the money right?

No. Many players make the minimum scale which might seem high to many does not even begin to make it all worthwhile. Signing bonuses are the only thing guaranteed and maybe the first year. They do not get payed for preseason games nor do the get payed for the playoffs.

Most players careers last around 3 years. Not too long is it? And then what. Most, when they leave the game, ( forced out ), do not have anything to fall back on. Many do not know how to mange the supposed wealth they receive.

Like the Roman Coliseum of old,  football stadiums are a mecca to many fans, ( fanatics ), millions and millions in cost to build.  Tickets, concessions, stadium naming rights, television revenue all contribute to pay for it all.

Players are bit players on the football stage.

The National Football League. Maybe they should call it The Not For Long league.

The game they love is killing them.

That is the football legacy. Not what you thought is it?

coffee time

ray

House

Survey Says?

Ok. I need a show of hands if you think my recent collection of writings over the last week or so could be described as drivel, claptrap, ludicrous, pretentious, sophomoric and which set back the case of verbal intercourse a thousand years? ok, ok, no shoving, yes, I will count them all, the one jumping up and down under  with two hands up, I counted you too.

Hmm, that many???

Ok. I need a show of hands if you thought it was emotional, gut wrenching, bare it all, informative, humbling. revealing, hurting writing that will stand the test of time?

I am waiting......( cue the sound of crickets )....still waiting............sigh......... .....sigh........

The results are in...And the winner is...

You liked it! Thank you very much for all that voted. ( Yes, the results were rigged, just like a real election. )

coffee time

ray