Hey who are you talking to? Me? You hold me in esteem? Why thank you!
Hey wait a darn minute, what the hell is esteem?
Defined as:
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: the regard in which one is held; especially : high regardesteem we all feel for her>
What about self esteem I hear about all the time? What is that? Lumping stuff all together, it means you are important and worthy and priceless. Little ole me? Yes and you and you.
We all have down days where nothing seems to go right. We think it is all our fault, one thing after another going wrong. Not true. If that was the case, who dressed you, fed you, drove you to work, and so on. Like anything else, some things seem to stick out.
Most of the time we can shake the bad stuff off, sometimes by laughing at the silliness of it all.
But sometimes, our brain can't get out of the way. It might be a bad affirmation, something said to us when we were young, "you are ugly" or "you are fat" or "we don't love you" or "you are stupid" that will stay with us for life. Life becomes a series of awkward social situations, or we refuse to accept compliments at face value because we doubt them.
I feel like that when I draw or write poetry. Really, do you think it's good, really? It takes many compliments to make me believe it. But when I walk away from a drawing or a writing, I am satisfied with the end results. Confused? Me too. But onward.
Someone can be described as beautiful, intelligent, creative, resourceful, worldly, witty and not believe it. ( No, it is not me ha ha). You run into all types of people in life who seem to have it all and are totally insecure because they think they don't deserve it or fame is fleeting, or looks will go with age.
Many things we do are based on results. Sometimes perfection is expected, a doctor, a pilot, often don't get a second chance or a do over. Most of us can try again, at what ever we attempted.
Low self esteem, holding yourself with little or no regard of importance is usually wrong. If you are not good at something, try something else. Sometimes society puts up roadblocks to prevent success from happening. Sometimes you have to change the rules and society will grudgingly go along.
The end result is the more confidence you have in yourself the more people will recognize that fact indeed you are special.
So to all of us out there with a moment of self doubt, we believe in you. You are what you are and that is good enough.
And that goes for me too.
We hold you in high esteem! Sounds good, doesn't it! My self esteem just went up a notch.
Time for a cold something or other to drink
ray
4 comments:
Plenty of people use that very low self esteem or personal dissatisfaction to get to better places. One can have personal self worth and yet still lack confidence in themselves.
Low self esteem does not always equate to poor self worth. It can mean that the individual sees their perceived shortfalls and works at being what they see as a better person. Their bench mark is high for all sorts of reasons, who are we to tell them to lower it.
Just because someone does not see themselves as others do is that a bad thing? What if that person has still made good with their life despite the fact they still have those thoughts? What if thinking in their abstract way is okay.
At the end of the day, people live their lives in the way that works for them.
Linda
I should of added self doubt which has plagued me since I was a little boy being forced to wear glasses in school at a time when "four eyes" was used with spite and cruelty.
Actually, one of the best ways I have found to change people's outlook about me is to be amongst new people who don't have preconceived ideas of who I am.
Self doubt, self esteem, self worth, it always is a struggle for me personally.
I promise to to accept all the nice things people will say to me and be all I can be!
Fan-Flippin'-Tastic! And odd, because I have been thinking of the issue of my low self-esteem all day. This came along at the perfect time, R.J. :)
Thank you!!
Dawn
I am beginning to everyone has issues on a daily basis on feeling good about themselves. Kind of like feeling guilty about doing well? We can cheer each other on to greater heights without a problem but giving our selves a pat on the back seems wrong. You are welcome.
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